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“Why Do You Put Yourself Down?” Part IRobert Brooks, Ph.D.

I had just completed a workshop for mental health professionals when several came up to chat with me. I have heard a wide spectrum of comments and questions during and following my talks, but I was not fully prepared for the first question that day. “I’m curious, Dr. Brooks. Why do you put yourself down?” The question was posed by a man who looked to be in his mid-forties.  I replied, “I’m not certain what you mean by ‘putting yourself down.’” He responded, “You gave examples of how insecure you felt as a therapist, especially at the beginning of your career, and that some of the things you said to your patients may not have been very helpful. You certainly didn’t sound very confident.” Perhaps other attendees at my presentations have held the same opinion as his, but I couldn’t recall anyone ever saying this to me. I actually wondered if he were kidding and if he would follow up with a humorous comment, but I quickly realized he was serious. My next thought was that my purpose in sharing struggles as a beginning therapist was being interpreted in a far different way from what I intended, and perhaps in

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